And when that realization comes for some folks it’s a cause for BIC. It’s a “wow, that dude hasn’t called me” causing you to try to ferret out all the info that you’ve been missing. It might manifest itself as a drive by on his block, a drop in to his favorite restaurant, or a call to his mama (just calling saying “hey” Ms. Jackson). You go through the five stages, denial, grief, BIC, anger (BIC squared) and “fuck him.” Until finally, acceptance. But there’s the other three weeks notice and that’s where I am. When you realize, it’s you that hasn’t called and he’s just taken that cue to give you what he thinks you’re asking for. No five stages here. Just resignation and the realization that, for a time, the three-week gap would have been unheard of. Now, it’s acceptance that what you had was great then and now you mourn. But if you’re lucky, the relationship evolves.